Mate, you opened a conversation with frustration at our community, generalized all trans women from the actions of a few women, used the word "ideology", rhetoric and wording specifically used to undermine us all (something you're fully aware of being an advocate for our community.)
In a time where trans men in particular, are being used to leverage trans women as less than.
Surely you get that as blokes in our community with less visibility to the media than trans women, we have a unique opportunity to advocate harder.
This is an uncertain time for everyone, and I'm truly sorry you're hurting. However with your platform and renown, driving a wedge issue into our community is how we are further othered by society.
As trans men, we're currently being groomed and "welcomed back" by the same people who called us "Dykes" 20 years ago, people who are only using our insecurities to spread more fear.
You're better than this my guy. I know you are. You wouldn't have chosen your career otherwise. Anger is to be expected in time when each day a new attack and legislation against us emerges.
We cannot allow ourselves to be a wedge issue. You matter to this community. This is why people have responded with such hurt.
I really hope you find your centre again mate. Speak to some people privately and honestly. Learn to understand the feelings you're trying to express, without a layer of current socio-political and interpersonal conflict.
You deserve to understand yourself, entirely mate. But not when it's through a lens of bitterness and frustration, it won't help you or the people around you to understand your issues.
Good luck.