ok, revealing my grand plan. fuck it
i'm purposefully cancellable so that people lock on and harass me instead of trans women
i'll never leave because that means they have me as a target rather than her.
im not joking. all of this was planned (and i still hold my beliefs)
theyfab coworker just asked me in a lab full of people, βdo you ever misgender yourself?β
i said βno, iβm too comfortable in my own identity to do something like that.β
and then they explained how itβs normal to misgender yourself and iβm actually the weird one here
i donβt care how politically aware you are, or how much LGBT activism you partake in. if you are a c!s person, you HAVE to pay attention to the way you speak about trans women.
if i see you misgender or degender a trans woman, iβm assuming youβre a transphobe. thereβs no excuse.
and iβve been seeing them tell men βitβs just our uterus - the thing that keeps your baby safeβ. which is not only trying to justify being seen as βfatβ, but also weighing their worth based on their ability to give birth
iβm often assumed to be a trans woman simply because i consistently stand up against transmisogyny. this is extremely sad because trans women should never be left alone in the fight for their ability to exist without consequence.
very true.
itβs funny to think of which handful of people the average person thinks of when they hear βdetransitionerβ. examples include maia poet (never went on hormones) & ollie london (βtransitionedβ to a βkorean womanβ for attention). the grifters always get the spotlight.
i used to be a tenderqueer who thought it was wrong to say βtheyfabβ even when applicable & called people who disagreed with me transmeds. i listened to trans women and realized how fucking stupid i sounded and now i post about my annoying theyfab coworker.
AMA
i was just talking to my girlfriend, complaining about the transphobia iβm getting today. i said βi get heβd and sheβd constantly, but never theyβd.β and she said βyeah they save all the theys for me i guessβ
:(
if iβm following a femme in a relationship, i always also make sure to find their butch and follow them too (same for when i follow partnered butches). i adore butchfemme love so much i need to get all excited every time i see you post about each other.
βbut historically, bisexual women used butch & femme labels!!!β
when bisexual women used these labels, it is because they were either in a relationship with another woman, or because they decided to eliminate men from their dating pool despite their attraction to them.
some butches identify as men AND lesbians which is making the Chronically Online Queer Youth very very uncomfortable. lesbians are never going to fit into the boxes you create for us. itβs best to just let it go, i promise another personβs identity isnβt gonna harm you.
yβall, i made the most liberating exit from comphet.
my last boyfriend was abusive as fuck. he was OBSESSED, like fully in love, with this beautiful girl from his fighting game locals.
a year later, i left his ugly ass for her - she and i are in a loving lesbian relationship.
the sentiment of what the first comment said was correct, but obviously doesnβt apply in this scenario. there IS an issue with thin (usually middle/upper class) people thrifting βoversizedβ clothing and taking the clothes away from poor and/or fat people.
when we as white trans people start using βAll Lives Matterβ comparisons to downplay the transphobia that either transmascs or transfems face, it starts to become very evident that we do not understand the full context behind why ALM is an anti-Black movement.
this is so precious it warms my heart every time i watch it. it makes me sad that so many people think an autistic personβs genuine feelings are βfunnyβ so often
it can be. itβs called consensual nonconsent (CNC).
but go off calling a trans person a rapist when iβm a rape victim who has never once committed a nonconsensual act on anyone iβve been sexually involved with.
you are contributing to a culture of puritanism and transphobia.
they intentionally misgender themself and me all the time. it sucks so bad to be in a work environment where i am constantly misgendered, and my nonbinary identity is mocked by another trans (?) person saying all AFAB nonbinary people are women at their core.
if you claim white trans people are βuniquely racistβ or somehow more racist than white c!s people, or if you disproportionately target trans women with racism accusationsβ¦ i fear you are just a transphobe
iβm very disappointed by the response iβve been getting from TME ex-mutuals after putting more effort in to standing up against transmisogyny. iβve been told iβm βsiding with trans women,β that iβm βtransphobic against transmascs,β and many other pearl-clutching accusations.
may 23rd.
dear diary,
i am the fattest, the strongest, the most acne-prone, & the most full of joy iβve ever been.
i am 8 months on testosterone.
π h
thank you for sharing your perspective. π€ as someone with PTSD who experiences a lot of memory loss because of it, i understand the frustration of my brain placing me in the past randomly. itβs really scary especially if it warps your sense of identity.
agreed, like what do you mean the entirety of your transition included a haircut and a binder. not to mention that they consistently disprove their own talking point that all transition is βirreversibleβ because there they are, able to perfectly reverse theirs
yeah but this post is in the context of detrans grifters. they speak upon medical transitionβs βnegative/irreversible effectsβ from a pedestal of experience, as if they lived it themselves, but they never did. so i think itβs fair to criticise their lack of medical transition
i apologize to every trans woman who had to interact with me on the subject of theyfabs before i looked deeper into transmisogyny caused by nonbinary people who cling to their AGAB to pearl-clutch and demonize trans women.
i was insufferable.
a large majority of the βfat communityβ doesnβt use the fatness spectrum pictured. fat people (especially fems) are harassed on a daily basis online for literally existing and posting pics of ourselves. why make it worse by grouping us all as a hivemind like this?
why do you make fun of other people's teeth then? you'd think your experience would have made you more empathetic, but here you are - insulting the appearance of every trans person who critiques your TERFism.