While it's absolutely true that the Chinese education as a whole is highly competitive and harsh, this seems a bit like confirmation bias and deeply skewed towards the tier 1 cities. When I was in Yangshuo (pop: < 400k) I talked w HS kids who wanted to stay local and enjoy a
I’ve been spending more time on Xiaohongshu lately, and it’s reminded me just how deeply broken the Chinese education system is (a huge reason why people try to leave the country as well). It’s not just high-pressure … it’s an all-consuming circus, where everyone knows they’re miserable but feels trapped in the performance. That’s why I thought the 2021 ban on for-profit tutoring was a good idea and still do, in principle although not in execution. At the time, people were outraged. I had friends who lost their businesses overnight, and that pain was real. But the truth is, the system had become unbearable, and something drastic needed to happen.
The pressure starts absurdly early. My friend showed me an elite Shanghai preschool worksheet with milestone targets starting at 18 months, to help parents judge if their baby was a “fit.” By primary school, it’s normal for kids to have hours of tutoring, plus homework, with no real free time. Parents, especially moms, often quit their jobs to manage this, only to be blamed by teachers whose own bonuses depend on how well their students perform. It’s a chain of pressure - teachers to parents, parents to kids - and it fractures entire families. Kids burn out & some become suicidal. Moms are anxious and exhausted. Dads, if involved, try to help, but often just add fuel to the fire.
This is not rare. It’s the default. And it’s no wonder that so many young people are walking away from marriage and parenthood altogether. They’ve seen the cost, and they don’t want to pay it.
So yes, banning tutoring came from a good place. But without removing teacher incentives tied to scores, changing hiring practices, or broadening definitions of success, the pressure just moves elsewhere, or emerges underground lol.
There’s one sociology professor I follow who actually seems to get it. But she’s an outlier. Most people are still too deep inside to see just how much damage is being done.