WHOLE THREAD. Men with high, strict standards = competent, authoritative. They're often buffered by women - assistants, nurses, wives - who do the work of "softening" them for others. Women, expected to do their own emotional labor, are seen as bitchy, mean, less trustworthy.
The first couple of years out of residency, as a new attending, I made a number of trainees cry. A couple of my ER residents. An ortho intern. A medical student, a young nurse. I still feel kind of awful when I think about it. Want to know what I did to them to elicit tears?