Without biases, emotions or begrudges. Listen to what sheâs saying, sheâs saying the truth. Many married men lack the things these side chics are providing in their marriages. Many married women forgot what they did to get the man. Now that they have captured him, got the ring and wedding they forgot that the manâs needs did not change from when he was a bachelor. The need for attention, affection, respect, appreciation, sex and pampering.