CEO Coach | Host of The Metagame: themetagame.substack.com/pod… Facilitating inner alignment.
Toronto / SF
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Go to bed at 8pm.
Don't drink cold water.
Brush your teeth BEFORE breakfast??
Ayurveda sounds strange until you discover it's underlying principles
Here's a gentle intro with @jessicavellela - the first American woman to become an independent Ayurvedic Physician and the founder of myayu.com
What Is Ayurveda?
Real Ayurveda vs that New Age stuff
Jessica's path from Boston to India
Speaking to the skeptic
How Ayurvedic doctors see patients
Elements, Doshas, and Ayurvedic Theory
The Three Doshas
The value of "archetypal epistemology"
Western science misses Complex Systems
No substitute for personal empiricism
80/20 Ayurveda basics
Why you should go to bed at 8pm
Huberman, Ayurveda, and Morning Light
The Ayurvedic Morning Routine
What if your body wakes you up too early?
The Heat Burrito Remedy
Why drink warm liquids?
Healing lactose intolerances
The Secret Missing Vitamin Fantasy
You're unhealthy bc you lack Sensory Clarity
Ok maybe it works but is it even practical?
Look up The Metagame on YouTube, Spotify and Apple.
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I regret to inform you that personal growth rarely comes from acquiring new knowledge and always from periods of intense humility (i.e. your ego finally relenting)
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I regret to inform you that all your goals are just shitty proxies for love and tribal belonging
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I regret to inform you that the entry fee for having "high agency" is you take responsibility for ~everything
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Kahneman cooked when he said:
The instagram generation experiences the present moment as an anticipated memory
Non-stop losing my mind over this video. I know they're actors but I don't think they are *that* good. I don't recall anyone being this light, this unselfconscious. I've been around dancers now (not actors) and normies and everyone is so aware of cameras.
I feel smth was lost.
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Rilke said "The purpose of life is to be defeated by greater and greater things"
Most people have no idea what their physical and intellectual limits are, because they quit when they feel like they’re gonna die. This is a mistake. You’re supposed to feel like ur gonna die. Because really, the opposite is happening; you’re growing and getting stronger.
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Nietzsche said to "Never trust a thought you had indoors." bc small spaces = small thinking and depression is identical to staying inside all day
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Happy to discover that "self-discipline" is just picturing your Future-self as someone you love and taking care of them
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most "introversion" is just fatigue from being fake all the time (you haven't found your people)
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most issues are skill issues, which are really experience issues, which in turn are courage issues
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they don't tell you this but coffee is a full-blown psychedelic. Don't ignore set/setting and definitely make an intention before each cup
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once you're humble enough to accept reality as it is, God rewards you with a flow state
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This is real. I once did a voice acting class where they showed a hilarious 10second exercise for returning to your natural voice:
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"The charismatic woman has a masculine force and severity. The charismatic man has an entrancing female beauty. Both are hot and cold, glowing with presexual self love."
- Camille Paglia
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turns out it’s much easier to show love to yourself if your default is to show it to others
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Peter Thiel speaks as if his brain is on Sentence 5 while his mouth is only halfway through Sentence 1
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highly neurotic, projection-prone people are canaries for your blindspots (listen to them)
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sorry but "self-improvement" is doomed by design bc it depends on the belief that the improver is broken
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"Digital Nomads" are just Avoidants who’ve built a life around their attachment style 😭😭
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The magic you're looking for is in the full-assed effort you're avoiding - @justinskycak
New episode on Math Academy and the science of skill issues
links below
00:00 Welcome to The Metagame
00:28 Bloom's 2 Sigma Problem
08:49 The bitter pill when learning anything
13:18 Skill trees and knowledge graphs
18:00 The "meta knowledge graph"
21:26 How to BECOME CONSISTENT
38:23 You're bottlenecked on HUMILITY
40:12 The danger of identifying as smart
41:35 Justin's personal ideology
42:04 Keep your identity small (@paulg )
48:56 How to find your Mission
49:42 The stages of Talent Development
56:47 Don't quit your job! (yet)
1:00:56 Take your hobbies seriously
1:15:40 How to build antifragile habit streaks
1:20:50 You have a right to the action, not the outcome
1:26:06 You need a gang!
1:30:55 The most legit findings in learning science
1:33:36 Active Learning (most important)
1:36:06 Forgetting curves and spaced repetition
1:38:43 Interleaving and Mixed Practice
1:45:59 The Testing Effect and Retrieval Practice
1:52:06 Final thoughts and takeaways
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Self-discipline is actually self-domination
i.e. you privilege one of your internal stakeholders at the expense of all the others
Inevitably your psyche generates a coup. The parts you bullied vie for power and disrupt your life
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Oblique answer but invite blunt feedback from people that know you well on what’s kinda weird/off/unique about your way of relating to ppl
Bc you might genuinely have an intimacy block that’s masquerading as “pickiness” or even a dating strategy that full blown overlooks the “right” people
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seems like all of my most intelligent + earnest friends are deriving Christianity from first-principles by the time they hit early 30s, despite being raised secular 🤔
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new episode with @RomeoStevens76
On how he reduced his neuroticism scores from 60th to 5th percentile
as well as building self trust, Core Transformation, samskaras, pedagogy and the philosophy of intentionality
links below
00:00 - Reducing neuroticism to 5th percentile
03:38 - Benefits of exploring safe forms of pain
04:56 - Suffering "set points" from childhood
05:30 - The limits of seeking comfort
07:09 - Why being firm with yourself is underrated
26:57 - Hitting critical thresholds of self-trust
34:18 - Intro to Core Transformation (better than IFS?)
48:37 - How to do Core Transformation with a friend
57:37 - Scaling trust to group dynamics (black pill)
1:05:06 - Intentionality, preference aggregation
1:17:34 - Pedagogy, flow frontiers, skill building
1:20:15 - Metalearning for practicing piano
1:26:28 - Playing The Metagame
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Everyone wants 'community' but no one talks to 'strangers' (i.e. the people in your literal community)
Say hi to the 80 y' old Portuguese lady who lives next to you. Ask if she needs anything. Walk up to NPCs on your street. Press *A*. Take their side-quests and items
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you have to post your schizo insights the moment they hit you bc that's precisely when the rest of Consciousness is maximally receptive to them (better engagement)
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you're smart enough to do it
you're just too isolated to maintain morale for the length of time required
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new episode with the brilliant @johnsonmxe
in which he explains jhanas in terms of the vascular system
full discussion in the comments
(also shout out to @jhanatech)
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being known as a "bad texter" is a great way to stay insulated from the unhealthy expectations of phone addicts
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thoughtcels seething when actionchads capitalize on thoughts they "already thought about" years ago
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new episode with @dthorson
on why Secure Attachment is upstream of ~everything
links below
00:00 Welcome back to The Metagame
00:39 Reflections on 5yrs of monastic training
02:10 Fixing yourself presupposes you’re broken
06:22 Spirituality is Secure Attachment with reality
12:21 Collapsing ontology and phenomenology
13:19 The problem of "inferential distance"
14:46 Evoking the subjective experience of love
18:59 Attachment security is upstream of ~everything
21:54 The Mother Wound: safety and shame
33:20 The Father Wound: authority and value
38:01 Balancing order and freedom
39:29 On defragmenting conflicting parts
41:01 Why is it SO hard to know our true desires?
42:55 How to step into your own Authority
51:34 Start with healing the Mother Wound
51:51 Practical steps for healing
53:49 If love is so fundamental, why don't we see it?
59:05 Coaching, Ideal Parent Figure Protocol and using Claude
1:04:36 Why “more meditation” isn’t the answer
1:07:19 The metacrisis is an intimacy crisis
1:09:44 Do this one practical thing
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> repetitive surrender
yes! this is hard, especially if you've been rewarded your whole life for developing agency/control
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new episode with @algekalipso himself
in which he answers "does the body keep the score?"
and how jhana's and DMT help process trauma 👇
(also shoutout to @johnsonmxe in this clip!)
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relatedly: “You are not IN the universe, you ARE the universe, an intrinsic part of it. Ultimately you are not a person, but a focal point where the universe is becoming conscious of itself"
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Guy who overuses “mimetic” in casual conversation because he once heard someone else do that
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General advice for lazy folk is to remove things (never add) until natural inclinations come online
Most ppl aren’t fully lazy. They are just oversaturated with the wrong things (e.g. tv shows, YouTube, twitter)
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new episode with @DougTataryn
how to actually "process emotions" and fully heal
and what's so special about TPOT
(+ shoutouts to @QiaochuYuan and @dthorson)
00:00 - What someone’s voice says about them
03:23 - Gendlin's Focusing and good outcomes in therapy
08:21 - Heart vs. Intellect in Communication
09:31 - Why Jordan Peterson is so charismatic
16:01 - Wtf even is “Emotional Clearing”?
24:47 - Can we ever FULLY heal?
26:18 - Healing and David Allen’s GTD
29:20 - Is crying necessary?
32:17 - Am I processing or just repressing?
36:15 - Therapy demo with Daniel
50:06 - Why the intellect reduces aliveness
54:05 - How to practice emotional processing
58:16 - The 9 Core Feelings
1:02:32 - The Enneagram and 9 Core Feelings
1:08:09 - Method acting as healing
1:10:18 - Therapy demo with 9 Core Feelings
1:24:11 - a "sales pitch" for emotional clearing
1:27:03 - What should I add to my practice stack?
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no one tells you this but "confidence" is just a byproduct of embracing the parts of yourself you've been avoiding (i.e. integrity)
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a man's capacity for commitment is directly proportional to the clarity of his life's purpose
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turns out happiness is just a skill issue
new episode with @Plus3Happiness on how to
oneshot procrastination, speed run Stream Entry and reduce suffering by 90%
links below
00:00 Welcome to The Metagame
00:09 How Michael reduced suffering by 90%
00:46 Frank Yang (@digitalairair) and Liberation Unleashed
01:31 Mike's first perceptual shift
02:59 Stream Entry
04:11 Dropping 15yrs of aversion
06:10 Wtf even is Stream Entry
09:00 Anecdote on weakening aversion
11:56 Practices for dropping aversion
16:03 How suffering actually works
20:11 What is Conditioning? (i.e. trapped priors)
26:32 No more bad days (seriously)
32:59 Dropping form and formlessness
40:37 Dropping conceptual maps
43:43 Increasing freedom and agency
47:56 Why therapy doesn't work
51:04 Therapy reifies identity
53:33 Concrete example of what to do instead
57:36 Memory Reconsolidation
1:00:26 How to oneshot procrastination
1:07:01 The "Fetters" meta
1:08:45 What's "the ick"?
1:10:45 Adlerian psychology (fuck Freud!)
1:14:49 Is everything just a story?
1:16:10 Live practice: you're not The Doer
1:21:05 Michael's upcoming projects
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Happy to discover that the best hedge against inflation is a critical mass of high trust relationships
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Yes! Realizing that **surrender** is a transformative skill and if you're good at self-control you're probably bad at letting go
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new episode with @gptbrooke !!
learn how she overcame heroin addiction by discovering a "happiness switch" and then built Vibecamp
also: cultivating agency, finding friends, social skills, homelessness, domestic violence and TPOT
links below
00:00 Welcome to The Metagame
00:26 Wtf is Vibecamp
01:06 The Evolution of Vibe Camp
02:57 The Meme Origins of Vibe Camp
05:21 An "agency explosion"
07:19 Wtf is TPOT
12:32 Bowman's School for the Socially Inept
18:16 Social skills = somatic awareness
30:17 How to make friends as an adult
42:29 How to host a house party
43:56 Brooke's Lore Recap
45:07 MDMA use and it's benefits
49:10 Cocaine was my education
59:28 Descent into heroin use
1:08:40 Withdrawal is very psychological
1:11:26 Homelessness, life on the streets
1:22:03 The concept of rock bottom
1:23:31 Navigating dangerous relationships
1:24:44 Dumpster diving and street Life
1:25:38 Pregnancy and rock bottom
1:27:04 Escaping domestic violence
1:36:22 The Happiness Switch
1:48:37 Price of agency is radical responsibility
1:54:48 Future Projects and Reflections
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My favorite productivity hack is actually showing up to international flights 3hrs early and getting so bored at the gate that I finally finish all the work I’ve been avoiding I call it the TSA timebox
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wokeness is vengeance masquerading as justice
@RichDecibels (former Occupy activist) describes what post-woke politics could be
new episode with @RichDecibels
on developing your Disagreeableness and taste
links below
00:00 Welcome to The Metagame
00:16 Music practice and pedagogy
01:02 Most interesting reframe for learning music
02:33 Connect imagination to instrument with voice
04:22 Exploring vocal techniques
05:18 A playful approach to ALL learning
08:48 Play vs Practice
14:00 Learning to navigate by pleasure
17:38 How to develop personal taste
23:42 How taste relates to charisma / attraction
26:47 Anecdote on "hot" girl at Wholefoods
29:19 Rich meeting is wife at Occupy
34:49 Personal sovereignty is overrated
39:18 Agency as a prerequisite for interdependence
41:11 How to be more disagreeable (fight, integrate aggression)
44:25 Nervous system activation in conflict
47:02 Somatic awareness
48:04 Out of Character Exercise
51:45 Personal boundaries in romantic relationships
01:04:01 Building antifragile relationships
01:11:14 2025 Vibe Shift (becoming post-woke)
01:18:14 Practical steps for the politically homeless
01:21:19 Rich’s latest project
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most problems are people problems, which are really emotional regulation problems
in this episode @chrisbarber teaches us a concrete skill for processing emotions with words
links bellow
00:00 Intro to Chris
00:52 What even is Emotional Regulation?
03:25 Why a successful founder focused his life on this
06:45 All problems are people problems
07:40 What is Resonance?
09:00 Attachment issues, mothers, and Resonance
10:57 Practical use cases for Resonance
13:33 What Resonance is *not*
15:32 How to do it: the three tools of Resonance
18:26 Live Demo: Copy Statements
20:40 Live Demo: Guess Statements
26:33 Live Demo: Exaggeration Statements
36:00 What it feels like when Resonance works
46:12 How to practice without becoming a weirdo
52:05 What about petulant people who weaponize emotion??
57:09 Final reflections & invitation
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delaying parenthood delays healing bc learning how to love your children teaches you how to love your inner child
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new episode with @RichDecibels
on developing your Disagreeableness and taste
links below
00:00 Welcome to The Metagame
00:16 Music practice and pedagogy
01:02 Most interesting reframe for learning music
02:33 Connect imagination to instrument with voice
04:22 Exploring vocal techniques
05:18 A playful approach to ALL learning
08:48 Play vs Practice
14:00 Learning to navigate by pleasure
17:38 How to develop personal taste
23:42 How taste relates to charisma / attraction
26:47 Anecdote on "hot" girl at Wholefoods
29:19 Rich meeting is wife at Occupy
34:49 Personal sovereignty is overrated
39:18 Agency as a prerequisite for interdependence
41:11 How to be more disagreeable (fight, integrate aggression)
44:25 Nervous system activation in conflict
47:02 Somatic awareness
48:04 Out of Character Exercise
51:45 Personal boundaries in romantic relationships
01:04:01 Building antifragile relationships
01:11:14 2025 Vibe Shift (becoming post-woke)
01:18:14 Practical steps for the politically homeless
01:21:19 Rich’s latest project
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also most decisions should be made immediately bc you can almost always course-correct if you get them wrong -- but you can't correct being too slow
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new episode with @tucker_peck
integrating advanced meditation with psychotherapy
links below
00:00 Advanced meditator AND psychologist
00:17 Dharma is being nobody. Therapy is being somebody
01:08 Ego is important
01:56 Lovingkindness without boundaries is bad
03:02 The Pre/Trans Fallacy and having a “healthy Ego”
04:55 Transcending the Ego is ~always temporary
06:18 Mental Processes (dharma) vs Mental Content (therapy)
09:34 Overrated or Underrated: IFS, Jhanas, Core Transformation, etc
14:27 Why Motivational Interviewing is GOATED
22:31 How to do “Emotional Processing” correctly
25:00 The “Inbox” approach to emotions (the sin of the God Realms)
27:00 When to stop processing your emotions
27:51 Spiritual bypassing
30:12 Emotional flatness is not enlightenment lmao
31:51 Is it repression? Or I just don’t have much to process??
38:48 Sublimation and sexual energy after advanced meditation
41:39 Removing blockages to vital energy
47:36 Magical powers are real (but you’re not supposed to talk about it)
50:00 Tucker’s book: Sanity and Sainthood
50:26 Wtf even is “meditation?”
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the quality of your life is directly correlated with the # of people who Share Location with you
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"What was it like working with Michael Jackson?"
@HowardxBloom dropped by The Metagame 🎙
We talked about ecstatic experiences and how he ran the biggest PR firm in the music industry.
Link below 👇
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dating markets are always oversaturated with Avoidants bc everyone else got cuffed already 😂😂😭
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also to learn how to discern the signal within their noise. Bc most reactions will be exaggerated and wrong in obvious ways, but correct in interesting ones
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