writer/phd from STS UCL / head of research @thelovetankcic (views are my own) / bodybuilder / they/he / insta: @benvyle / ✡️ 🍉
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if you don't know, within @thelovetankcic, i helped put together a sex and gender-inclusive harm reduction guide to anabolic steroids. it includes advice about risks and side effects (and how to manage these), safe injection practice, and body image:
queerhealth.info/projects/st…
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one thing this pandemic has made me realise is how strange it was that (in the before times) people were expected to go to work/show up to things when suffering or symptomatic with a cold or flu
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and for the sake of the athletes seeking medical attention and not sexual violation, thank god you don’t have this job
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at this point i'm actually unsure whether people truly think male pattern baldness is the manifestation of evil rather than benign biological difference
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there is of course an irony that an album full of meditations on the push-pull relationship of the artist and their art to success was beaten to the #1 spot by an artist peddling the 304th edition of their album for another week atop the charts with no self awareness.
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sorry but nothing will enrage me quite like disrespect to queer elders... you cannot comprehend the avalanche of bullshit they have endured and survived and how your life is better *because* of this... you will absolutely shut up and save your snark for your agemates
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love how charli xcx has been so vindicated in her decision about her album artwork… the brat iconography is unquestionably one of the most impactful of the decade
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clearly, discouraging sick leave is one of the reasons why we all suffer from winter colds every year
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gender roles in 2024 look nothing like they did in 1024. why on earth would human brains be hard coded to like “toy trucks” vs “barbies” when our brains don’t even have especially specialised structures for reading and writing - phenomena developed over thousands of years?
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my boyfriend is moving out tomorrow for safety (😔) and has just given me instructions on how to water our FORTY houseplants and i have never felt more stressed in my life....... i am going to kill them all....
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we will never be able to watch that bit of THE DEVIL WEARS PRADA where emily comes into the office with a cold the same way again
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instating robust (but contingent) sexual boundaries is an absolutely fundamental prerequisite to challenging sexual abuses faced in all corners of society by all people. and this is not the same thing as prudishness or sex negativity.
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cannot believe this is BBC breaking news. i can’t recall ever seeing the voice of a single Palestinian civilian ever being pushed to the centre of public consciousness like this. the asymmetry is absolutely shameful.
Israeli peace activist held hostage in Gaza tells BBC she no longer believes peace between Israelis and Palestinians is possible bbc.in/3zcpdli
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if this bus crashes there is going to be a shortage of graphic designers in london
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but i guess it makes sense since we are all living in the marvel cinematic universe where all the heroes are hot and the villains are disfigured
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guy on grindr: BE ABLE TO HOLD A CONVERSATION!!!!
me: hey, how are you?
guy on grindr: good.
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lorde’s lyrics fully capture the double meaning of ‘brat’ that charli has described in interview; namely that as well as a deeply cunty and snarling aesthetic it is also a defensive posture adopted when someone feels insecure. so slay xx
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i cannot bear the ways jewish identity in the UK is now so deeply enfolded into fascist and supremacist politics. please believe there are 1000s of british jews like me in despair at the way judaism is being weaponised to silence people of colour and those in pursuit of justice.
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unilateral sexual desire is also not an ill. how you enact it - or boundary it - can be. a lot of men don’t understand this (often because they have not had these boundaries modelled for them. we can start now).
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that time my ex pretended to be dead to see how our dog would react and she did this
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i am actually extremely grateful that people like this exist and have refused to be coyed by probably a lifetime of snide comments and bullying from people that the world would probably be better off without
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what if we are still in lockdown when the drag race finale is supposed to air and ru has to get in drag by himself at home...
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the islamaphobia + blatant homonationalism on this week’s #dragrace was galling. it’s perverse that being a queer muslim was raised as an apparent contradiction, yet the queens all wore the flag of a queerphobic, misogynous, and racist nation without so much as a raised eyebrow.
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still a lot of work to do to teach men, in particular, that they have a right to be kinky, horny, desirous, and so on, but that this doesn’t sublimate others’ rights to e.g bodily autonomy, boundary formation. the former should always be in conversation with the latter.
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the fact we are this far into monkeypox crisis and the UK government have not even centralised their vaccine effort is reprehensible. queer men are still relying on word of mouth and the tireless work of frontline workers to find out where to get vaccinated.
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sex workers teach us a lot about this, since the work, by definition, involves ongoing conversations between the sexual desire of clients (or audiences) and the boundaries of the worker.
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animal crossing just sounds like work..... you’re all sucking the teat of capitalism in your downtime 😌
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i'm not exaggerating when i say if this happened while i was on the tube it would be the worst day of my life
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honestly why should landlords, who don’t work for their money, expect payment when so many people are going to be going without pay because of covid-19? 🧐
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if nothing else, shaming people into staying home is ineffectual. shame is *not* a good public health intervention. it tends to drive people into secrecy, avoidance, refusal, denial, to create states of exceptionalism for themselves, and so on.
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