A friend asks: after a hiatus of a few months, how to apologize to an Anki deck? It feels "angry" now! I wrote:
I totally get you. Here's the thing: the Anki deck has been mistreated—but not by you!
The Anki designers accidentally put the wrong clothes on the poor Anki deck. They dressed it up as an inbox. When you don't attend to an inbox, it just keeps piling higher and higher.
But I think the Anki deck wants to be treated more like meditation, or a nourishing meal. If you miss a week of meditation sessions, you don't meditate 8 times as long next time. If you fast for a few days, you don't find yourself wanting to consume 4,000 calories in your next meal.
Concretely, I suggest: try setting the maximum cards/day to 50 (at a typical average of 6s/card, this is 5m). When you finish, you're done! You did your meditation session and/or ate your nourishing meal! If you want to do another later that day, that's fine; you can do that if you want.
Unless your deck is enormous, if you do 50/day (~5m), you'll catch up eventually. Really, it's totally fine if it takes weeks! It's just the hyperliteral Anki interface that makes it feel not fine.
Also: taking a break actually gives you an opportunity. You have fresh perspective on your deck. Probably now it's easier to sense that you don't care about a bunch of those cards. So, give yourself the freedom—or, better, encouragement!—to suspend/delete any cards that stimulate a disinterested response.