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My therapist told me that anxious people have tendency to only explore the scary “what ifs” and challenged me to remember that there is also a flip side. What if you excel? What if it is one of the best experiences of your life? What if it changes you in a beautiful way?
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I want us to normalize “I cannot work today because I am not in the mental space to engage with others” and that be okay
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Funny story: so at my job, we do. And we also redact name and school to address that bias. Since that practice, Black women have consistently either made it to the final round or been hired 😂 funny how that works huh
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Oh wow this may the one of the most important videos of this saga — he was trying to do his job patiently and wow
This video shows how the whole Alabama ferry brawl started.
Brother man was doing his job telling these folks to move their boat so the ferry could dock.
Privileged ass white people refused to move and then jumped him
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I think of this story a lot. Primarily because it didn’t require Ella to ask this of Marilyn. Marilyn seemed to understand her positional privilege and used it to create space for someone who should’ve already been there. There’s a lesson in allyship here that many seem to miss
Ella Fitzgerald #botd
“I owe Marilyn Monroe a real debt. It was because of her that I played the Mocambo, a very popular nightclub in the 1950s. She called the owner and told him if he'd book me, she'd take a front table every night. I never had to play a small jazz club again."
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I saw this on FB and it really helped. I thought he started having multiples with a few of the same women.
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The Tik Tok account who posted this appears to be that of La La Land Kind Cafe where they prioritize hiring young people who age out of the foster system. So they aren’t just giving compliments on the street kind… they are “make this part of the business model” kind
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Whewwwww! Come on sample size! Come on longitudinal study!
A major new study confirms the MMR vaccine for measles, mumps and rubella has no link to autism. Researchers from Denmark followed the medical histories of 650,000+ children over 10 years and found the vaccine does not trigger or increase the risk of autism.
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She really has the look that everyone is emulating but somehow no one is giving her the credit
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A reminder of what happened in 2008. I just want the bridge builders to recall how it went.
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I’m really mad about the Meg thing. I’m really mad about Breonna Taylor. I’m really mad about Toyin. I’m really mad about Atatiana. I’m really mad that Black women are, by and large, assumed to be able to just endure. Even in death.
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This is your friendly reminder from a married mom that if you don’t want to get married, don’t. If you don’t want to have kids, don’t. It really has to be something you desire with your heart, don’t let society put benchmarks on your path that don’t align with who you are
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Professionalism is both racist and classist and is portrayed as “appropriate behavior” but pay close attention to who breaks those rules often and seems to remain employed. Issa joke.
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Some professional advice my mother gave me very early in my career: when people say things verbally, recap it in writing when you correspond. “Thanks for our conversation, I am planning to ___ per your recommendation to ___ that you shared today” especially Black women.
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Okay. I’m in dolls. I’m ready for this to be the thing that in 20 years people post and say “your auntie had these too?! We all lived the same life!”
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When I see people say they desire to leave corporate and “relax” by starting a farm I know they’ve never farmed. Ever.
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Y’all I’m not being mean, I’m not. But why does liking non Black things make you complex? What am I not getting about this (very common) take?
I’m a Black dude who grew up on heavy metal & hip hop, loves the work of John Carpenter & Julie Dash, read Japanese Nobel laureates & Don Diva magazine.
Complex Black folks are nothing new. Each one of us is special but none of us are unique.
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I don’t believe in the “I think like this because I was raised this way” after the age of 22. At your big age read a book and develop some critical thinking skills for yourself.
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A beautiful man. I’m going to embrace these last few days I like him before he transforms into Mister
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This will give you actual chills. Thank you to all the celebs using their voice @Beyonce @Pharrell @aliciakeys +more
Taraji Xone®
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My good sis Jordyn said "focusing on a young Black woman who made a mistake" and Jada follows up with "Black women are the most disregarded and disrespected on earth" are yall seeing this?! Olivia Pope type fixing going on and I am loving it! "Uncle Will" skdlfskdfs
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Honestly get Mychal to bring back Reading Rainbow but make it a traveling show that showcases local libraries. The kids are struggling to find the joy in reading anyway. We need as much literacy content as we can get
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We should disabuse ourselves of the notion that the children we bring here are our legacy anyway. They are human beings with their own path… not some egotistical extension of ourselves.
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Tomorrow is my spouse’s birthday and I have a picture of him doing this every year of my baby’s life. It will never be lost on me that when sick, tired, scared, frustrated, uneasy, ANY of the unsavory things our son goes right to him. I am so glad I married a man this tender.
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Hey, self-care isn’t always bubble baths and glasses of wine. Self care is being late and being okay with it. Self care is changing plans. Self care is staying in. Self care is going out. The operative word is self and whatever YOU need to be the best you
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Hello, yall. Hi. Educator peeking in here to say that a lot of the things you think kids know/understand about computers and the internet, they DO NOT. The “always on that phone” does not translate to word processing. Please speak with children you know and love about “basics”.
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Something that makes me sad about Twitter going away is the access to information for free. So many people have learned from this site. So many connections. It isn’t lost on me that a billionaire is the reason it ends… as I have shared before — being a billionaire is unethical
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Ladies on the TL don’t say nothing but y’all notice what I notice right
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These are the kinds of things that I wonder why Black wealth doesn’t step in…. For counsel. To pay it. Or for whatever….
😢 Survivors of the 1921 massacre in Tulsa filed a lawsuit asking the city to pay reparations. The city tried to dismiss it 3 times. “The city is trying to delay as much as they can in hopes of our clients to pass away of old age”
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If it was true why don’t men say it to other men? You only want women to smile? You only want to be nice to and speak to women?
When I started asking men why they didn’t ask a man in proximity to smile they get really nasty and then I smile 😊
when women say “i wish random men would stop telling me to smile” and people (usually men) respond with “he was trying to be nice and wanted to speak to you”, i’m always so lost. because if that’s the case, why can’t they say “good morning/afternoon” and keep it at that lmao?
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This practice is both preventing houselessness (experienced disproportionately by foster youth) and a way of ensuring they learn transferable skills
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People do not want poor people to experience humanity. They don’t want those experiencing poverty to have choice or autonomy. They want to believe that it is the result of bad choices because then and only then can they distance themselves from that reality. And it is pathetic
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Never forget the duality of the human experience and when anxious thoughts creep in and take over... explore the good side of the unknown because it could exist.
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While we're discussing Spring Break activities.... meanwhile, some Alphas in Miami... ✊🏽
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My spouse went out last night and some young girl said he looked 29 and now his head won’t fit in the damn car. Thanks a lot!
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If you’ve always been a giver then takers have a way of finding you. You stop giving and well.... the world shifts a little. And you may feel guilty but take inventory of all you’ve already given and then give to yourself a little more.
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Yall pray for me — this how my day started🥲 I’m in the chair now though bless God
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There’s a lot of “teach me” “help me” “tell me what I can do” instead of stepping back to think critically about what’s in your locus of control as an alleged ally. And that makes me doubt your motives and commitment to true equity. It gets in the way more than we admit...
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The girls are not well and ashamed to admit they don’t love being mothers like they present 🤭 that’s just what it is baby. No other reason they should be triggered that bad by child free women.
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I love paying professionals to do what they do best. I’m not stressing myself trying to be proficient in something someone else has mastered.
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Sometimes in my quiet moments I think of how brazen R K***y was to call himself the Pied Piper. I don’t even think you can call it hiding in plain sight. He wasn’t hiding. He was bold
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You see, others will put you up as the sacrificial lamb every chance they get. “I didn’t say that” can and will be uttered in your career. Keep. Your. Receipts. People will say “that’s not necessary”... if you are a Black woman. Know that I am telling you the truth.
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To see police officers get beat up. Physically beat up and not pull out a weapon is.... you have to laugh to keep from crying. this world is nuts.
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I think introverts kill it on the internet because they have refined their internal dialogue their whole lives. Somehow it just translates really smoothly to socials
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Black American culture is the widest consumed culture globally in my opinion and I really am not interested in debating it.
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Here’s an article on how this practice is being implemented in a variety of fields (this piece specifically mentions gender but you get it) hbr.org/2020/03/research-to-…
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After having a child and a pregnancy that had some trauma, I think so much more about how it is an extreme overstep to ask women about their desire to bear children. In any sense. I know this sounds extreme... but it isn’t. Because it isn’t anyone’s business
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Healing your inner child is the first step to enlightenment. That is who you are at your purest. We deviate from it only to return because that’s the beauty.... you were always who you are
why does maturing feel like coming back to who I was as a child and letting myself be that? it's weird.
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My ovaries literally cannot! RT @marcelluswiley
.#Datlildude is under attack!!!
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Marcellus Wiley
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The influencers on your TL won’t say it so I will: ENGAGE WITH BLACK INFLUENCERS AND CONTENT CREATORS. That means comment! Like! Share! I know y’all see Susie Beth and Becky Jo racking up the coin. Get to it. It takes nothing from you honestly
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My spouse and I have been together 14 years and while on a date today I learned something new about him. Saying this to say that most relationships aren’t at an arrival point but an ongoing journey. I appreciate that we are evolving together.
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A downside to being really good at taking care of yourself and cultivating your own joy is people presuming you don’t need them to offer that to you. They wait to see what you do for you and join in. Meanwhile, the planner always wants to be planned for.
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Want to give back? Take your old bookbags and luggage to a social worker. So many kids in the foster system carry stuff in trash bags
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American University elects first Black woman SGA president. Her sorority, AKA, becomes the target of racist violence. #AKA1908 in 2017.
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If you think only hood people fight, I encourage you to go to a college bar that the white frats and sororities frequent at 2a on a Friday night. Report your findings 😂
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The thing I find intriguing about this Keith Lee thing is he has gone to multiple cities and multiple establishments and been able to eat. His issue in Atlanta isn’t just the service but these rules that make it difficult TO EAT.
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When you lose a best friend before they turned 25 I promise the ageist jokes don’t land the same on you. I’m convinced that’s what it is. To age is a blessing and a gift
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It is so expensive to be poor. On the converse, rich people get a LOT of things for free.
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Examples of areas of opportunity:
- Subject Lines for Email Correspondence
- Saving files
- Creating a document filing system/file storage
- Google searching for a specific purpose
I’m about to carry my old ass on to TikTok because it has reached an unacceptable point.
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Black women are currently the most educated group in the U.S. but only 2% of America's medical doctors are women.
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Y’all still sleep so I can rant about this now. I HATE purity theology and soul ties culture. Aside from it being reserved seemingly for girls and women, I have yet to see a sound theological base. For a God that wipes your slate clean at each impasse, why would your soul be TIED
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I’ve seen this twice today “if you do what you love you’ll never work a day in your life” and I’m sorry I just struggle to accept that. Labor is labor. Leisure is leisure.
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Every file can’t be “Document 1” baby how can you organize that? Why are you sending me a blog as a source? I mean really. The fundamentals. We gotta get it back. They are missing.
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A black student's probability of dropping out of school is reduced by 29% if he or she has one black teacher in 3rd, 4th, or 5th grades.
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Because they can’t imagine being that evolved and think that queer and trans children are the work of Black women “feminizing” Black people. That’s the quiet part loud and a big reason why so many hate “feminist”
Why do y’all feel like Gabrielle Union is the sole reason behind Dwyane Wade’s decisions for his child? Why do y’all feel like he doesn’t have a mind of his own? Why does he have to be DL or gay to embrace his trans daughter?
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As an event planner, I would love to see more events that celebrate accomplishments and not just falling in love. I’m trying to do dissertation soirées and white coat ceremony bashes. Promotion parties and I just wrote a book celebrations
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Y’all please do not settle for anything less than a love that energizes, affirms, comforts, challenges, grows. A love that makes you say “wow”. I promise it is possible. Please if you don’t pay attention to anything else I say get this very clearly. You deserve that.
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"You all hate supporting Black men. Nate was acquitted! Support Black movies!"
Are you seeing Queen of Katwe?
"No! Lupita not attractive"
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And also, in case you weren’t aware, saying little boys are your “boyfriend” is predatory. Saying they are flirting normalizes this. Saying they are a “stud muffin” or “heartbreaker” normalizes this. Yes, it is that deep because they are CHILDREN
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Tragically, she was found dead this morning. For all those that were keeping up with the case... smh
Amber Alert issued for 13-year-old Shavon Le'Feye Randle from Lancaster. Was last seen at 10 a.m. Wednesday. bit.ly/2sispsc
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I’ve had to tell too many younger women that a LOT of men are cowards and lack enough emotional maturity to leave you… they are waiting for you to leave them. I’m so glad the new ones are silly enough to tweet things like this so you can know to be sure
when you keep messing up on purpose so that she can break up with you and she keeps forgiving you YOH😭
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I’m adamant about reimagining family structures because many children would be better off being raised by a group of friends than a traditional heterosexual partnership where the man does nothing. It emotionally stunts our children. Don’t @ me. I will air you out today 😘
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You know what’s funny... feminism is the reason women have the choice to stay home or work.
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Have you all noticed that when people ask Black girls and women our opinion and we answer honestly that they say it is “mean” or we could’ve been “nicer” in tone or delivery? And I’ve established it is because people aren’t asking for an opinion but affirmation
North wasn’t mean and she wasn’t wrong!
Esp re the necklace, the pearl gaps and the dress looking unfinished/beachy.
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If you are a woman who calls your man daddy please block me — I know we will never get along 🫶🏽
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