Some thoughts I’d like to share with the GC community:
It’s counterproductive to spend time damning people who dare to live outside the binary, in a space that is meant to be safe for them to do so. The concept of “proving” your genderlessness not only defeats the purpose of existing outside the binary, but it plays into the same structural barriers that have harmed genderqueer folks for generations. This is such a delicate line to walk that it absolutely needs to be left to the already established authorities in GC. This entire argument is incredibly online and reeks of a lack of perspective on gender and queer history.
If you are part of the witch hunt that requires a potential player to prove themselves to you as non-binary enough, as trans enough, I implore you to picture yourself doing that to someone’s face. If you deem yourself as knowledgeable enough to know someone else’s gender better than they do, I implore you to dive deeper into queer history. Find queer community - in real life, not just on the internet. We cannot let ourselves become a hateful, exclusive online community that upholds the gender binary.
Furthermore, if you deem every new player who joins the community automatically a threat to its integrity, interrogate that a bit further. Is it simply because they’re unfamiliar to you? Many of the people who were similarly whispered about when they first started playing in GC are regular competitors who I don’t hear anything about anymore. Keenc, Powerpixele, Rayse, Nathn, unstable, superkat, starbound, evv, miku. Every single one of these players were at some point under scrutiny from the community about their intentions and values. And now, many of those players are longstanding members of the community who have been integrated socially and competitively. If every new, good, non-cis player is a such a threat that you need to trash their reputation with speculative tweets and DM’s, perhaps you need to raise your aspirations. This is supposed to be a safe space for people for marginalized people, many of whom have only come out to their friends online, to be themselves, and to express their potential through competing and improving.
All that has been accomplished from this situation is that a non-binary person’s fear of retaliation for coming out have been confirmed. What message does that send to other closeted folks? As a community, we must do better.
To speak to this specific situation -
I’ve known @ItsS0to for about 18 months. They’ve always impressed me as someone who stuck up for what was right within conversations about marginalized people, in a way that is very rare among the players I’ve interacted with throughout my career. It did not surprise me then to learn that they had been questioning their gender for a while. It’s frustrating to see so many people project bad intentions onto a person they did not know or care to find out more about.
As for Cookie, they were verified by Anykey. We spoke to many people that said they had concerns but who, when pressed for actual evidence, were unable to show substantive proof that Cookie was not who they said they were. Much the same as any of the players listed above in months and years past. We chose to trust in Anykey as the established authority on the subject when we began the process of picking them up. They were subsequently reverified by Anykey, and when Anykey revoked their verification, we immediately paused playing with Cookie in preparation for GC2.
For those of you who may doubt my intentions or values expressed in the selection of players for trial and spots on the roster (a process for which everyone currently on the roster was consulted at every step), know that I have been trained as a gender-affirmative therapist, and I have been an out member of the queer community for longer than many of you have been alive. This subject is important to me not just in the context of GC, but in the context of relationships in my real life whom I love dearly, and the larger context of the protection of marginalized people and dismantling of systems of oppression.